One of these women looks like she could meet
any challenge. The other one looks like she could
make a green Jello mold taste good. But which
is which. Either woman could do either thing.
My friend Dora always tells me I’m too judgmental.
Hate to admit it but I am. I look at somebody and form
an instant opinion. I’m usually wrong.
I’m in my car at the corner of 53rd and Fifth Avenue waiting for the light to change. A dozen people are crossing in front of me and all I do is judge them by how they look. There goes the librarian, here comes the hooker….
Several years ago, I was asked to be one of the judges for one of the first People Magazine’s Best and Worst Dressed list. A young woman from the magazine showed me photographs of celebrities. I only remember photos of Cybill Shepperd, Mary Tyler Moore, and Dennis Rodman.
Cybill Shepperd was wearing a bright green outfit and I said she looked like the Jolly Green Giant. Why is it so much easier—and more fun—to criticize than to compliment?
I wonder what Cybill Shepperd would say about my blue eyeshadow, clumpy mascara, kohl eyeliner that doesn’t line right, lipstick that looks wonderful on everybody else but is always the wrong color on me.
I don’t want to think about what other women think about how I look. I haven’t had a full-length mirror in my house since the 1980s. Why get depressed?
Do I see what others see when I look in a mirror? Probably.
All I see are my flaws.
I don’t think men are as critical of a women’s looks as women are of other women. A woman looks at another woman and judges her from top to bottom, including her pocketbook.
A guy looks from top to bottom, too, but he’s not interested in the logo on her pocketbook. He sees nice boobs and a great ass and that’s mostly all he judges.
I judge men on how they look, too.
Big mustaches…only if they sing in a Barbershop quartet or they’re in a Witness Protection program.
Man bun…you like that?…you really can’t wait to hear him tell you how hot he is?
Bald in front and pony tail in back, favorite ice cream Ben&Jerry’s Cherry Garcia…the guy’s not aging well.
Stubble beard…needs more maintenance than Melania.
Goatee…come on, you know what that looks like.
Tattoos–The young guy who hands me my chicken nuggets at McDonald’s drive through—the one with snake tattoos on one arm and skeletons on the other…You want him to meet your daughter?
I know what you’re thinking. The world is falling apart and I’m judging how people are put together. The thing is I can’t do anything about the world but if that woman on the checkout line in front of me at ShopRite realized she’s too big to wear white jeggings without a tunic over them, the world would look a little better
You’re just a button click away– and I’d love to hear from you. 
About your world, your family, your joys and frustrations, growing up, growing older, even recipes–even though I stopped cooking–by request–years ago.
Goodbye until next time…
Hope your day turns out as well as I hope
(but doubt) mine will,
Gingy (Ilene)
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Hi Gingy – It is an enigma to me how people think that tattoos are attractive. I read in the Richmond, VA, newspaper about how a young man regretted all of the tattoos he received when he was 19 and had joined the Marines. He’s now 26, about to finish college after studying homeland security and emergency management and military science, and wants to re-enlist as an officer. He’s struggling with tattoo removal and a living example of “think before you ink”. Marines are prohibited from getting tattoos on the head, neck, inside the mouth, wrists, knees, elbows, and hands with the exception of a single band tattoo of no more than three-eighths of an inch in width on one finger.
And what’s the deal with torn jeans? How about sagging pants? I see young men with sagging pants, and I want to say, “Honey, I can see your underwear, and I haven’t even been introduced to you!” When I taught school, I saw a male student with sagging pants, and I said, “Do you plan to go for a job interview with those pants?” His response: “Are you kidding? Of course not!” Yes, there is some hope.
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G,
Finally we are getting some warmer weather here. The sun is out and the garden had been watered and we just ate a hardy breakfast and I just started a new coloring book of my own. Have been talking about it but just started drawing
Yesterday and have four pages done. It made me feel good that I’m actually doing it rather then thinking about it, Coloring and knitting and writing got me thru this past damp and very rainy winter. Now, onto new creative projects.
I carry a small pad & pen with me so when my inspiration surfaces I write it down and look at it and then I either carry it out to completion or just leave it on the list.
Dreams Are another way of getting inspirations.
Have a sunny, funny and inspiring day, my sweet gf!
Tootles,
Ar
G,
Oh what a beautiful day! Be grateful for everything in your life.
Your one of the things I’m grateful for. Thank for sharing your gifts
And Thanx for making me smile & laugh out loud.
Your always welcomed to visit any time.
Ar
Gingy,
I live with a Leo man need I say more, 10 years younger than me. I wear my hair long and usually wear it down for some occasions and then a side braid with a cute cap or ponytail with a baseball cap. i have always told him when he gets in his hair changing moods could he give me a heads up so I know there isn’t a stranger lurking in the cabin.
He has gone from a long braid down his back to shaved head in the summer. Male
Bun when I first met him in the summer of 09. He has gone from a salt & pepper full beard in the winter months to no beard in the summer. He bought himself a beard trimmer and hair trimmer set, cause he knows better not to ask me.
I have always liked long hair on men, as long as it’s clean. I’ve observed out here that some hippies or farmers that still wear their hair long with baseball caps or cowboy hats have no hair on top.
I think the way you wear your hair or how you put yourself together is personal and attractive to yourself first and leaves room for anyone to judge.
Gingy,
Spring is so beautiful here. Festivals start in June-August. Harvest time is amazing. Pot is legal. Let me know when your coming and I will message you directions on FB. The front door key is in the driftwood birdhouse. Your welcome to visit anytime.
It’s very healing here. Your words are so witty and funny. We all need to laugh
Out loud and then run to the bathroom.
Love hugs,
Arlyne
Oh Girls,
I love hearing your stories and I bet other women do too. Joyce, you’re
not Amish (nothing wrong with that if you’re Amish) or bad, you’re honest.
Arlyne, as long as you wash your jeans once in a while, I’d like to change
places with you once in a while.
I admire you both and all of us. We try so hard. XO
Gingy,
All I know for sure is everyone out here in N. California has at least one pair of jeans. Whether your a farmer or a hippie or business person jeans work. I’ve seen them at beach weddings as well as Sunday church and even toddlers wear jeans. I have only One pair and I think I got them at a thrift store. I wear them for different events and they are broken in and have no fly. My partner has a couple. One for gardening. 1 for going into town. Out here folks are living a laid back free style life. Many women of all ages don’t dye their hair and just let it go silver grey. I don’t think I have gotton a manicure by choice since I moved out here. I think women are the primary judges on other women when it comes to what women wear today.
I live in a two room cabin under the redwoods and when I hike I have hiking boots and jeans and dress in layers and always carry a small backpack with some water and energy food and a knife and wasp spray. When I get home I switch to my comfy yoga pants and a sweatshirt and call it a day!
Hi I.B., We must have been born twins and separated at birth. Every night I sit in front of the TV, criticizing all the news reporters, wondering if any of them look in the mirror before going on screen. Hair that needs to be combed, too much makeup, not enough makeup, clothes that don’t fit, gaudy jewelry, etc. I say to my husband: What were these people thinking???? And then I wonder why, when my children come to visit, they say that living with us is like living with the Amish. I know, I’m bad. When did I become so judgemental? Tomorrow will be a better day.
Love the blog.
Joyce
Love the take you take on everyday issues! Your blog is wonderfully witty and fun.
I love this! So true and right to the point !
I recently went on a trip and saw some people going the same trip at the airport and had negative thoughts about the way they looked. After meeting them on the trip, we became friends and they were wonderful people even though they may have been Republicans.
Love your blog!!!!! And yes, we are so hard on ourselves, so hard, we should sue ourselves for slander.
I love this! Keep sharing. Danny says he thinks he’s too judgmental. Kiera says Danny and I both too judgmental. We are trying not to be. 🙂
Wow, you are right on about all of it.
Terry
I see older adults dressed as if they wished they were children again. Oh vey!
We have “the eye” Gingy, and we know “put together ” when we see it! It’s a burden and a joy to appreciate and also be judgmental about fashion. I love this take on it! xo
Love your quote, “the only time you can change a man…..” and then, who wants to! You are judgmental but your judgements are so right!
Ilene,
Too funny, loved it.
Went into town today to do my errands and I saw cowboy boots and jeans and tye dye everything & dirndel skirts and braids and ponytails and hoodies and dreadlocks and deadheads and houseless & every one was doing their thing and there was a nice vibe going round. The mudslide that took out our major highway last week to San Francisco just had another mudslide on it and now highway 101 is closed & we don’t know when it will be open and there is no detour . So no tourists coming up to see the redwoods and no Big Box Store Trucks only local traffic.
Pretty quiet around here, it was the talk in town and on our local radio.
We got over 160″ of rain this winter that’s a lot of rain so the ground is real wet.
Anywho, love this blog. Keep doing what you do best! Making us laugh with your funny words and witty humor. Love hugs!
Always intuitive, always on target, always funny! Keep them coming.
Thanks for the laugh!
I think you are a genius, and I thought so since we were freshmen at Simmons. It should be a crime to wear leggings after grammar school!
Jeggings: tight-fitting stretch pants for women, styled to resemble a pair of denim jeans. XO
Great observations.
It’s true, Michele is much more critical of other women’s looks.
What are jeggings?
P
Wonderful remarks! How true!